Up In The Trees

Up in the trees fell the fresh air blow

Up away from the madness of everyday life

Away from the toilers, trouble and strife

Up in the branches where new leaves grow

Up in the trees where the song birds trill

Hushed busy minds, now calm and still

Away from the busy lives down below

Listen, allow your mind to grow

Safe in the knowledge the tree won’t fall

Knowing the trunk is sturdy and tall

Strong planted roots give balance at the core

Hidden away below the floor

Rediscover real life still exists

Stop, look away from you to do lists

Rediscover what’s important to you

Stop take a breath, enjoy the view

If your not careful, life’ll pass you by

You’ll miss what’s around or up in the sky

Take time to stop, look and appreciate

The bright, beautiful and the great

Up in the trees fell the fresh air blow

Up in the branches where new leaves grow

Up away from the madness of everyday life

Away from the toilers, trouble and strife

Up in the trees where the song birds nest

Feathers and a little red breast

An egg cracks, allowing new life to breathe

Giving hope and something to believe

Look around, don’t let life pass you by

It’ll be gone in the blink of an eye

Appropriate life while you still have the chance

Treat yourself to nature and dance

Dance in the sunshine and in the rain

Dance when your happy, dance through the pain

Climb those tree and look at the view

Come see the rainbow shining for you

Shining so brightly across the sky

Wiping away the tears that you cry

Promising new beginnings, fresh and true

Promising new begins for you

Up in the trees fell the fresh air blow

Up in the branches where new leaves grow

Up away from the madness of everyday life

Away from the toilers, trouble and strife


My perfect weekend

I know to many, this may seem dull, but to me, I am having my perfect weekend. If I could write my ideal time, this is it. Last night, thanks to the loosening of lockdown rules, my youngest daughter, that I live with, and I created a bubble with my eldest daughter, son in law and 4 month old grandson. I know it was a day early but it was my youngest daughters birthday. We all shared a takeaway meal together, my son in law commenting how strange it was laying the table for more than just the 2 of them. It seems so long since we were last together. I was able to cuddle and play with my grandson for the first time since lockdown began. He is so much bigger, heavier and more alert than the 2 week old bundle I last held. His laughter and smile made my heart burst. This lockdown has stollen so many precious moments. I’m not letting it take any more – I’m aware so many of you are still unable to see your loved ones so I won’t rub your noses in it by gushing over this. I’ll tell you about the rest of my perfect weekend. This morning started with a lovely message from a friend in America. We chatted for a while, comparing the way each of our home countries are dealing with the pandemic differently and shared updates about our respective families. Then I attended an inspiring, zoom, creative writing course, lead by Katharine McMahon, hosted by Watford council. Lead by Katherines direction of using “I come from” as the start of each line I wrote a poem – (it’s at the bottom of this page if you’d like to read it but if you could read the rest of the blog first that would be great! 😉) The session was inspiring and rather thought provoking, making me thing about dialogue and description within my writing. After the meeting was over I went into the garden and picked carrots along with the multi coloured beetroots, which I’d planted back in March. Yellow, orange, pink, white and the traditional deep red. My tastebuds were already salivating with the thoughts of different recipes and ideas running through my mind, as I planted new seeds in the spaces I’d just taken the vegetables from. I spent the next few hours making chutney, and a parsnip, carrot and beetroot cake. I have no idea what it will taste like but thought it’s worth a try. It was rather strange cutting into something that’s white and looks like a turnip but smells and tastes like a beetroot, although it was rather nice being able to cut beetroot without it staining my fingers. In a few minutes I am meeting up with, again through the power of zoom, a few dear school friends. It has become a weekly event. I know there will be a lot of laughter and silly jokes only we will understand. It will no doubt go on the the early hours. Then tomorrow morning I get to take my grandson on our first ever walk. Giving my daughter and son in law the first break away from him. It won’t be a long walk as I know my daughter is already stressing with separation anxiety just at the thought of being away from him, but it will do them both good, and I am really looking forward to it. It will be strange pushing a pram again. I’m sure it’s like riding a bike, once I start pushing it I’ll be right back to the time my children were babies. As I said, I know to a lot of people this may be dull, but to me it’s simply perfect 💕What’s your ideal weekend?

I come from

I come from Watford,

I come from a road with a name no one can pronounce,

I come from a house hidden by trees,

I come from an eclectic mix of decor and style,

I come from mud under my nails from tending to the vegetables growing in my garden,

I come from a mixture of coffee and mint tea on my breath,

I come from a storeroom adapted into an office bought about by the current circumstances

I come from a longing to hold my loved ones,

come from a muted rock Ballard with deeply emotional lyrics,

I come from a place of inner peace 🌺


A little creativity in a mad time.

I woke up in an experimental mood this morning. Nothing to do with lockdown fever, this is quite normal for me. Most days I’m a cereal for breakfast kind of girl but this morning I wanted something different. The scent of overripe bananas hit me as I entered the kitchen – Ding, ingredient number one in my breakfast extravaganza. A quick internet search for breakfast ideas using bananas, I know I have weird taste but some people are balmy, bananas on a beef burger, really! Anyway I digress. I decided I wanted pancakes but plain banana pancakes would not sooth my crave to experiment. After mashing the banana into the bowl a trawl through the store cupboard was called for. Raisins, no don’t fancy them this morning. Packet of suet, way too wacky. Mixed nut, not for breakfast. Desiccated coconut, ooow now there’s an idea. Banana and coconut, tropical paradise. A quick inspection of the package tells me it’s been out of date for over a year. It’s only me going to eat it. Does dried coconut really need a use by date? Ok let’s go for this. Self raising flour, egg, soya milk and the all important banana and coconut. Oops nearly forgot the baking powder, a good breakfast pancake needs to be light and fluffy. I know logically baking powder should go in the larder with the flour and other baking ingredients but the size and shape of the tub makes me keep it in the little cupboard with the herbs and spices – a cupboard that’s only five inches deep, idea for small jars. Plus, like this morning, I often catch the eye of a herb or spice while retrieving the baking powder and think “yes you’ll do nicely” and add it to the mix. This mornings lucky contestant was cinnamon. A couple of teaspoons of soft brown sugar and we are good to go. A few squirts of fry light just isn’t going to do it this morning. Instead a knob of butter and quick splash of rapeseed oil go into the frying pan ready for the pancake mix. As I spoon the batter in I get that usual feeling of self doubt “this is likely to be another kitchen disaster”. I never write the recipes down as I’m going along because there are more disasters when I experiment than successes. No matter how bad my experiments are, my frugal nature won’t allow me to throw it away, I have to eat it.The pancakes start to bubble nicely, a good start. The butter has got too hot and has given the pancake a dark, some would say burnt, bottom. It’s ok, I’ll flip them over and photograph the good side. Great idea, but the second side browned too. These arent going to be instagramable. Never mind, the main objective was breakfast not likes. Now to eat them “please let them taste nice”.Oh wow, they are fantastic! The banana, coconut and cinnamon combo really work together. The pancakes are thick, fluffy and cooked all the way through. Although the burnt butter means they don’t look great it has given them a gorgeous nutty flavour. The only criticism I can give these beauties is the coconut, turns out that there is a reason desiccated coconut has a use by date. The texture is even drier than usual and a little more crunchy, but the coconut gives more in flavour than the texture takes away. All in all I’d say this experiment was a success. Will definitely be making this again.

Valentines Day

I am a self confessed, hopeless romantic who, as strange as it seems, really doesn’t like Valentines Day.

February 14th, a day of forced romance.

In my mind romance should be spontaneous and constant throughout a relationship. Not just because a date on the calendar tells you to be. Romance isn’t about rules and expectation or doing something because society tells you to. To me romance isn’t huge grand gestures to show off to other people, nor is it linked to a price tag, the monetary value does not equal the thought, care or meaning behind a gift/gesture.

To me romance is heartfelt. Like your loved coming home from work with a bar of your favourite chocolate because they saw it in the shop and thought of you, or a little note tucked into your jacket pockets telling you how special you are, a home cooked dinner eaten together at the table with the tv off, cuddling up together in front of the fire watching the embers burn or taking a walk together hand in hand and pinching a little kiss when the moment takes you. It should be about spending vast amounts of money on gifts people don’t really want.

I remember one Valentine’s Day my ex bought me the traditional 12 red rose along with, at his daughters insistence, 2 bunches of daffodils. She told him he had to get them as daffodil are my favourites. On valentines morning I was instructed to stay out of the kitchen while they “arranged” my present. They poked the yellow daffodils in between each red roses. Although I appreciated the effort, and thought on little ones behalf, the effect was less than desirable. Obviously I smiled, thanked them both and said how beautiful the eclectic bunch of flowers were. But in reality my favourite daffodils may as well have been dandelions mixed with the roses. The two sitting together in the bunch looked cheap and nasty. The effect was very much like pairing an elegant red evening gown with yellow wellington boots. It just didn’t go.

Had they have given me the daffodils on their own I would have been delighted. Firstly because I love daffodils but also because of the thought and effort taken to know they are what I would want. My ex said he had to buy me roses because “that’s what you do on valentines” – how romantic!

Valentines is torture for those in the early stages of a relationship. That tentative time when you haven’t had that conversation defining your relationship. What do you do? Which card do you choose? Do you go romantic, and run the risk of chasing them off, or do you go jokie and have them think your not really that into this relationship?

And don’t get me started on valentines while your single! Even if you’re happily single every other month of the year, February makes you feel like an epic failure. Valentines is thrust upon you everywhere you look. The shops, tv adds, radio jingles, junk emails and restaurants displaying their “recipe for love” menus, signs everywhere taunting you. It’s like feel good about your hair, yes your double crown means you have to spend slightly longer drying it in the right way and there are certain styles you can’t wear but it’s all good, and then all of a sudden everyone decides they are going to point and stare at your double crown, laughing with their well behaved single crown and perfectly styled hair.

And what about those people who decide that they are going to use Valentine’s Day as their prompt to take that step and send a card, tradition states they are not to sign it! I still have cards, from years gone by, that I have no idea who sent them! Where’s the sense in that! The recipient is left wondering who sent it, was it a joke or did someone actually like you. The poor sole who sent it is left feeling deflated and rejected because their gesture of love hasn’t been acknowledged or reciprocated. It just a total mess.

All in all I think, like many things, Valentine’s is a nice idea on the outside but when you look at it closely it doesn’t actually tick any boxes. 🌺

I’m back!

I know it’s been a while since I last posted, in honesty I’ve not been in the best place so don’t feel like writing and sharing, but I’m getting back to normal now so let me try and catch you up.

My slipped disc is back in place and I’m well on the way to recovering strength in my back and at the risk of too much information the pressure is off of my insides and I can now pee properly, yay! (Sorry if you’re eating while reading this but it’s a great relief for me – please excuse the awful pun, my sense of humour hasn’t improved in my absence!) It’s one of those simple things in life we take for granted until it didn’t work properly – moving on.

I carried on exploring and visiting places for a while but all close to home so they would fit round hospital appointments and the osteopath (and all places that would allow me to research the locations of their powder room facilities before traveling!)

I visited a lovely old house with allotments and a kitchen garden which has made me rather excited about getting my own kitchen garden back up and running. In the absence of my own fruit and veg to harvest this year I’ve visited a lot of local parks and foraged fruit to making jams, pickles, crumbles and even Sloe Gin. It’s something I’ve always thought about but never dedicated the time to do before. It’s been tremendous fun.

The issues with my back made the decision to stop exploring and joining the real world of work quite easy. I’ve taken a temp job at my old firm for a few months. It’s not the job I want to do but I’m very grateful they have given me this opportunity to ease myself back into work after four and a half months off. The people in the office are great, all completely balmy but they are my kind of fruit loops so it works well. The job bores me but it’s only temporary and I can look for my ideal job to start once this contract is over.

It’s been a summer I’ll never forget and one I’ll always be thankful that I had the opportunity to do. 🌺


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Choose your attitude!

We all experience a range of different things in our lives. The effect they have on us and our mindset towards these things are up to us.

I have two male Facebook friends who are currently on holiday with their young daughters. Both are non resident single Dads – I don’t know them well enough to know the ins and outs of who has custody when etc.

One Dad, I will call him Dad “X” (please do not get the letter X confused with a kiss 😳)

Dad X is posting multiple times a day. His first post was how hideous the journey was. Moaned there are too many kids facilities at their holiday complex and how much of a headache the place will be for him. He did an end of day 1 round up saying what disaster it was. Moaned about how much energy his daughters have got and how tired he is and not looking forward to the days ahead, adding a moaning comments saying holidays are meant to be about relaxation. Another post stating it’s only day 2 and he needs a beer. Posting set of pictures with him and his girls looking miserable saying what a long week it’s going to be because his daughters are moaning – I can’t help but think behaviour breads behaviour. It’s no wonder the girls are moaning if he is.

Second Dad – I’ll call him Dad A – by this I really mean “Dad A-game”.

He posted saying letting everyone know they had arrived safe, a long journey but worth it because there seems to be so much for the girls to enjoy. A few days later uploaded a photo of him and his girls laughing enjoying time on the beach saying he’s had a full on day with his “beautiful girls”, going on to say they are all shattered and ready for a good night sleep before more fun tomorrow. Dad A has posted a few other bits, shares of typical rubbish joke etc, the kind we all like/share on social media from time to time, but looking at the time stamps they are all late at night and a time you’d expect his daughters to be in bed asleep, so not taking away from precious family time.

Obviously I know social media only shows us snip bits of people’s lives and we never know the whole picture, but from the little we have been shown I know who’s holiday I’d rather be on.

I was a single parent for 17 years. I know how tough it can be. I know I’m not perfect and over the years I have been guilty of having Dad X’s attitude (let’s be honest, we all have) But I also know how much more rewarding life was on the days I chose to have Dad A’s attitude.

Life is so much more fun if we chose to make the effort to look at life with a positive perspective. To take our noses out of our phones, to take part and enjoy what’s going on around us. You owe it to yourselves and loved ones to make the best of your lives, whatever that may be, and be happy 🌺


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My travel nemesis

“Don’t make me laugh you bugger, it hurts” I laughed hysterically not knowing whether to laugh or cry.

“If I swipe my work access pass will the gate open?”he mimiced a swiping action between my butt cheeks, pretending they were two metallic security pads, the ones you often see in office buildings. More laughter and more cries of pain.

I was bent over with my head at a 75 degree angle to my feet, holding tightly to the wooden bars on the farmers fence next to a gate, between us and the cows in the field. (I must have been in pain, cows scare the living daylights out of me.)

“Let’s hope the farmer doesn’t pass by while you’re doing that. Before you know it he’ll be elbow deep fishing around for a calf!”

“Shop, it!” I cried, in too much pain to be offended by being referred to as a heifer, this really does hurt.” The pain was bad enough on its own without the additional muscle spasms caused by laughing. If it wasn’t for these additional spasms the laughter might have been a nice distraction. I knew there was still a mile to go in the walk before we were at a point where the car could be bought up to get me without causing a big fuss. Why, oh why, had I thought a walk through the fields would cure the back pain I’ve had for the last 4 weeks? I’ll tell you why. I’m a stubborn, pigheaded, self deprecating woman who doesn’t know what’s best for her! – I had decided that the pain must be psychosomatic, after all a round of acupuncture and a fully body massage had only revealed knotted muscles but no actually “cause” for the pain. If they couldn’t find anything surely there wasn’t anything to find and all I needed was a good dose of fresh air and a long walk to shake it off, right? Wrong!

While traveling my back had started to ache – the holiday accommodations I have stayed in have been great but the furniture hasn’t been very supportive. That coupled with the extra walking, long drives, showers only, no baths to rest weary muscles, had started to take their toll on my back.

After a great stay in Snowdonia I packed my large hold-all ready to move to North Wales. As my back was aching I swung it onto the back seat of my car rather than lifting it, I figured this would be quicker and I wouldn’t have to bend. Nice idea but as I swung I felt something ping in my back and my left leg buckled. With a few choice words, and a lot of puffing and panting, I finished loading the car and drove the 90 minutes to my next destination – a beautiful two story cottage with a great view over miles of fields. With limited mobility I spent the next week and a half looking at that view and living out of my car as I couldn’t carry my belongings from the car into the cottage. I went on few outings, short walks on the beach (looking like John Wayne after a long horse ride through the desert!) and a trip I had to take up the Great Orme in Llandudno (I’ll tell you more about that in another blog). I hoped by mixing rest with small amounts of exercise the pain would soon go. It didn’t, so I headed home.

After a week and a half resting at home, a deep tissue massage and a session of acupuncture the pain wasn’t shifting. So I decided to go on a gentle, but, long walk through the countryside. My walking started slow and became even slower. The further I walked the tighter the muscles in my upper front thigh and hips became. With this tightening my strides became smaller and more painful. Every hundred yards or so I had to stop and crouch (with the aid of a fence to help me lower) or bend over (again with the aid of a fence). The three mile walk took two and a half hours. The last time I felt or moved like that I was in labour! This walk was not the tonic I was hoping it would be.

A trip to see the osteopath yesterday revealed I had slipped a disc loading my hold-all into the car three weeks ago, and no amount of rest and gentle walks were going to put this right. The osteopath, impressively, was able to correctly tell me the exact movement I had done while putting the hold-all into my car 3 weeks ago!

I needed manipulation to get it back in place. “Take a deep breath in for me. That’s it. Now out slowly” Sh## this is going to hurt, I thought as I did as instructed. But compared to the pain I’d been in already it was surprisingly bearable. Most importantly, I could stand up straight and the spasms had stopped! “You must drink a lot of water to rehydrate the disc and rest. The pain is likely to get worse over the next few days. Come back and see me Thursday” Was the warning from the osteopath just as I left. He wasn’t kidding! Bloody hell (sorry mum), today I feel like I’m constantly being punched in the kidneys! And the muscles in my thighs and hips are just as tight as before. They feel like elastic bands that have been pulled to their max, ready to break any moment. – The shareholders for Tiger Balm will be getting a decent dividend this year with the amount I’m using!

Hopefully after my appointment with the osteopath tomorrow I will feel much better and be able to continue my travels. First stop will be the Barefoot festival in Loughborough this weekend. 🤞🏻I desperately want to try BellyBolly, a fusion between belly dancing and Bollywood dance moves, they are having workshops on it in the main tent this weekend – I’m hoping for a miracle tomorrow 😳



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Meeting my literary idol – Milly Johnson

Yesterday I met my literary idol – Milly Johnson. I’m not usually a “fan girl” and generally don’t understand people getting excited seeing celebs. Living close to film and TV studios I very often see actors walking around and think nothing of it but Milly Johnson is a different kettle of fish. She’s the one who has really spurred me on to want to write seriously (that and my eldest, closest friend saying “will you bloody well stop telling me you’d love to, go and do it. Then come back and tell me all about it”. We were actually talking about something else at the time but I hear her voice every time I think “I’d love to …..”).

Milly Johnson is the person I aspire to be like. If the literary world had a ‘Stars in their eyes’ equivalent I’d be walking through the curtain saying “tonight Matthew I’m going to be Milly Johnson”.

I first picked up one of her books just over a year ago – Here come the Girls. A book about four ordinary women who find themselves winning a luxury cruise. The emotional journey these ladies had been on bought me to tears in some places but Milly’s clever injection of humour into these events had me roaring with laughter too.

I picked up that first book by chance. I was standing in the bookshop looking for a Jill Mansal book, another favourite of mine, but was struggling to find one I hadn’t already read. I then spotted a book with an endorsement from Jill Mansell and decided to give it a go.

From that first book I was hooked. I have since read 5 more of Milly’s Books and enjoyed each one just as much as the first.

When I saw a tweet advertising Milly’s book launch only two hours drive away I decided I’d go. Beginning just a little excited to meet Milly I set off four hours before the launch was due to start thinking I’d grab some lunch in Nottingham before the launch started. It’s a good job I did as roadworks and traffic made the journey nearer to three and a half hours. Seeing the tiny red haired Milly walk towards me as I stood outside Nottingham library made the journey worth it, and she hadn’t even opened her mouth yet.

Once the gathered crowd were shown into the library Milly regaled us all with stories of how she became a writer, where she finds her inspiration and is as funny and entertaining in real life as she is on paper. Despite being someone who has sold millions of books across the world there were no aires or graces about her. She was wonderfully grounded and (I hate to use this word but) normal, in her own unique way. At the end of her talk she opened to floor for a Q&A session. I desperately wanted to ask her advise on a few bits regarding my own writing but realised I’d been listening to her speak so intently that I was hardly breathing and couldn’t actually get words to form in my mouth (a subconscious habit I find myself doing when excited or concentrating, in this instance it was both, a double whammy). I let a few people ask their questions first while doing a few, discreet, breathing exercises – this was my idol in front of me, I didn’t want to make a tit of myself by not being able to control my voice when I started talking to her. When I finally spoke to her she couldn’t have been any nicer or more helpful. – those of you who have been following my blog may have noticed that I’ve not been myself of late. I’ve been a bit down and had lost my enthusiasm. Well yesterday I found it. The pocket sized, red haired lass from Barnsley stoked the fire in my belly. She gave me back my umph. I couldn’t wait to get home and start writing again. But before I left I bought three more of Milly’s books. She was so generous with her time and signed all three. She chatted to me about my own writing while she was signing and took the time to have a selfie with me. I was like a star struck excited schoolgirl who’d had her book signed by Madonna! Milly was just as generous with every single person who went and spoke to her. A really Lady.

I know many people scoff at commercial literature believing it to be a lower class of reading material but I love it. I’d much rather curl up with a good chicklit of an evening than sit down and watch soap operas or reality TV. Many purists will think I’m a Neanderthal as I do bend the spins of books as I nuggle into a ball to read. I also fold the corners down on the pages marking my place in the book. I believe books should be enjoyed. There’s nothing better than getting completely immersed in a story, so much so you become completely unaware of your surroundings. If I’m concentrating on holding a book a certain way or thinking about where I put the bookmark I won’t get the full enjoyment. Milly’s books certainly help me escape reality. Her characters are so relatable I feel like I’m making new friends. I think I may need to go and buy second copies of the signed books I got yesterday so I can keep the signed ones looking tidy.

Time to stop chatting to you lovely lot and get on with writing my master piece.

Catch you all again soon. 😘🌺

Football may not be coming home but I am

I’ve just taken a plastic bulldog clip out of my bag and put it in my hair. Sand fell from the clip as I picked it up. I think it will take along time to get the sand out of all my things when I get home and even longer the get out of my mind.

Traveling without my friends and family is starting to take its toll. North wales is beautiful but it’s beauty can not outweigh the longing in my heart to be with the ones i love. Rather than easing the distance Face time conversations seem to make it even hard to think about staying.

I do want to continue my travels but not sure I want to do it anymore on my own.

I don’t see this as a failure. I set out to find out who I was while seeing some beautiful places. I haven’t yet found out who I am but I have discovered that I’m not as much of a loaner as I thought. Having people around me isn’t enough. I need my people around me. At home I can strike up a conversation with anyone standing in a queue at the shops, waiting rooms, I even strike up conversations people who phone for surveys or selling goods. While in New York with my eldest for her 21st birthday my daughter was horrified by the amount of people I spoke to “mum this is New York, one of the most dangerous cities in the world, you can’t just go up to people and talk to them”. My daughters often laugh saying I’ll talk to anyone anywhere. Well it seems they are wrong. It seems that I’m not as comfortable socialising without a comfort blanket. Whether that comfort blanket be in surroundings I know or the comfort of someone I know with me.

I’m not saying this is the end, far from it. Maybe after a short visit home I’ll ready to continue my solo travels or maybe not. Either way I know my journey to finding me has only just begun. I have learnt I’m a lot stronger than I thought but I’ve also learnt I don’t need to deal with things on my out or hide myself away because I have some amazing people in my life supporting me. It’s great realising I’m strong enough to do handle whatever life throws my way on my own but even greater knowing support is there when I want it.

Regardless of the football result this weekend Mammas coming home 🌺


Love the skin your in

Society tries to dictate the way we feel about ourselves, the things we do, The clothes we wear. More often than not the influences we see are negative. How often do you see posts that say “how to get a bikini body” “fashion for the older woman” or “how to make the best of your body shape”. These aren’t helpful positive messages. They plant seeds of doubt telling you you’re not good enough the way you are.

The way to get a bikini body is to put your body in a bikini, nothing more. Wear whatever the heck you like whatever age you are. The way to make the best of your shape it to love it no matter what shape you are. Because guess what? YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH EXACTLY AS YOU ARE!

No matter what your age, whether you’re tall, short, wide or narrow, have thigh gaps or need a whole tub of Vaseline a week just to get your rubbing thighs through the summer without starting a bush fire, you are beautiful! The way we look, dress, style your hair should be about what makes us feel good not what we think we should do to conform to other people’s ideals.

Today I put my 45 year old hair in pigtails, put on my size 18 body in a bikini and strutted my funky stuff down the beach and didn’t care who saw me! As I ran past a group of 4 people in their early 20’s I overhear them make comments about my saggy stomach wobbling as I ran. At the time I just laughed but now I’m home I feel sad. Not for me but for them. They were trying to project the negative way they feel about themselves on me. If you are truly happy and living your best life then you don’t even see others “flaws” in other people or the perceived negativity and you don’t feel the need to comment on them.

I know I spent my entire 20’s and 30’s trying to conform to an ideal dictated to me by others. I listened to those comments that said I was too fat, too flabby, must hide my stretch marks. I cringe when I looked back and remember the times I thought I was too old for a certain fashion or style of clothes I wanted to wear! Too old in my 20’s!!!! I was caught up in the idea that being a young mum meant I needed to conform to a certain look, dress a certain way in order for other people to be believe I was a good mum! Seriously! As if by wearing a skirt that may have shown a bit of leg would have meant I’d suddenly give my children a packet of razor blades to play with on the side of the motorway! Sometimes I wish I could go back and shake to younger me by the shoulders and say “you’re doing great, stop worrying about what other people think and believe in you!” But I can’t. What I can do though is to show my children how to love themselves and hope that they learn long before I did.

Remember are beautiful just the way you are. Only words and actions can be ugly.

Throw away your negativity and live the life you want and love the body you are in. 🌺